Author Archives: bobbergeron

Happy Holidays.  The new year quickly approaches, have you made the list for what you want to change? In 2012 I want to: 1. Take better care of myself. 2. Spend more time out of the house interacting and having … Continue reading →

Here’s one of the comments I hear most often from my gay male clients over the age of forty, “I’m just not turned-on anymore by guys my own age.” Is this true for you?  If so – especially if you … Continue reading →

One way that gay men interact with each other includes the action of cruising.  While you’ve cruised for years, here’s news for you – we don’t all use the same method for cruising each other.  I’ve discovered that we have … Continue reading →

When the NY law on gay marriage passed, the first phone call I received was from my parents in Arizona; their voices filled with joy and desire to celebrate the moment.  This example of love and support for my gay … Continue reading →

It’s so fantastic to be writing this!  It finally happened here: NY state legislators came to an agreement that legally allows same-sex marriages in my state!  This is a beautifully strong moment for gays and lesbians, both in relationships and … Continue reading →

In February, I wrote about NY congressman Chris Lee sending a shirtless picture to a younger woman on CraigsList (please scroll back to read it).  Well, it appears that NY congressmen seem to like to show off, because now we’re … Continue reading →

June is gay pride month.  What does this mean for older men?  For many, being older symbolizes, “I’m done and finished with gay prides, I went when I was younger.”  Or, “I’ll be the oldest one there, why would I … Continue reading →

All five senses impact on sexual pleasure.  Current research on the human brain suggests how specifically the visual sense enhances sexual arousal, especially for males.  When I began studying this research, I was fascinated, but not surprised.  It made perfect … Continue reading →

Right now is an unprecedented moment in our gay history.  Today: we are the first large group of openly gay men to deal with the issues of getting older.  How is that possible?  The earlier generation, the Stonewall men: were … Continue reading →

  When I ran my past workshop at the amazing LGBT Center in Los Angeles, it was a sold-out room filled with a variety of ages: from younger guys in their late twenties all the way up to seniors in … Continue reading →